Responsible, Cool, Level-headed, Even- tempered…these are all words that people have used to describe me. I consider myself to be the calm in the storm; the person that everyone gravitates to for sound advice when things get a little hectic. And let me tell you, that doesn’t always go over well! For instance, it gets on my mom’s nerves sometimes! LOL! She likes a reaction! If she’s upset with something, she wants me to show the same level of emotion as her! Don’t get me wrong, I believe that emotion is good! It’s great actually! We are all human. There are things that will make us happy, sad, mad, excited, confused, etc. We are extremely complex, so it’s natural for us to experience and display a range of emotions. But one thing I’ve always worked on is making sure that people, things, and situations don’t get the best of me. I never want to be so affected by someone else’s actions, situations, or the lack/abundance of things that my emotions go haywire every time the wind blows!
Life is a beautiful complexity, isn’t it?? We have control over nothing and at the same time have control over everything! On one hand, we don’t know what’s going to happen from day to day, hour to hour, or minute to minute. On the other hand, we have control over ourselves! In this crazy, unpredictable world, you have the power to control you. .. control your thoughts, actions, and words. The way you view situations, the way you handle adversity, the way you handle blessings, the things you say… everything you do shapes your reality. We all represent different threads that make up the fabric of the world in which we live. Although there are things we can’t control, so much of what we do as individuals impact the world around us. Don’t let the world change you, you change it! Remember, a thermometer changes based on the environment in which it is emerged, a thermostat sets the temperature and controls the environment in which it is used! Have a thermostat mentality… set the atmosphere, don’t let the atmosphere set you!!
3 SureFIRE Ways to Keep Your COOL!
- Focus on what you can control- Why stress over something that you have no control over? It will only make you more upset! Focus on what you can do and do it. It will give you a sense of control, accomplishment, and progression.
- Understand that in every situation, you win- Regardless of the situation you encounter, good or bad, you learn something. And you know what they say, when you know better, you do better… and with that YOU will definitely become BETTER! We can all agree that becoming a better person is always a WIN, right?!
- Be Grateful- You may not have been expecting this tip, but it’s probably the most important one of them all. There is always somebody dealing with issues and situations that are worse than yours. When you keep this in mind, it will put everything back into perspective. It will take you from the mindset of “why me?” to “why not me?” When you get to that train of thought, you begin to go back to Step 1- Focusing on what you can control…and doing it!
Now go out there and be COOL!