“I’m feeling myself. I’m feeling myself. I’m feeling my…” The song “Feeling Myself” by Nicki Minaj and Beyoncé has become my theme song, or should I say chorus so far this year! In 2015, I’ll be turning 30; and for the first time, I feel like I’m firing on all cylinders! But here’s the kicker… I don’t have everything together!! Continue reading Start Feeling YOURSELF!
This is my first blog post of 2015! Yay!! I have been racking my brain trying to figure out what to write. Over the past few weeks, I’ve been inspired by a lot of things. Today however, thanks to Life and Relationship Expert, Cheyenne Bostock, I’ve not only been inspired, but moved. Break Every Chain…what a fitting way to begin 2015. Continue reading Break Every Chain
In the past 2 weeks, I have received some very surprising news. It has led me to evaluate life and how I’m living it. So in today’s post, I not only want to share the news with you, but share a simple message I stumbled upon that may help you live your life in a more fulfilling way. Continue reading Life’s Greatest Loss and How Not to Lose it!
When I was younger, I always made sure my homework got completed on time and studied for every test. Well since everyone knew that, a few would want to copy my homework or cheat off of my test…and I wasn’t having that! LOL! My philosophy was, “Oh no! You’re not going to use me! I didn’t work my behind off while you were out having fun so that you could just copy my work!” Years later, I noticed that I developed a problem with sharing, always afraid of being taken advantage of.
So fast-forward to today, one day before the one month anniversary of the loss of my stepfather. Sometimes that word “stepfather” can have a negative connotation, like it’s a step below or beneath your biological parents. So I’ll call him my “bonus” Dad! He was in my life since the age of 1 years old. With Father’s Day around the corner, it hit me while I was shopping for Father’s Day cards that I don’t have to get two cards this year. I usually get one for my Dad and one for my “Bonus” Dad. I can’t lie; I shed a couple tears walking out of the store that day because the fact of the matter is… he’s gone. I’m pretty sure that when his birthday comes around and when we hit the major holidays it’s going to be tough. But one thing that gives me joy is that he’s basking in the glory of HEAVEN! And we will definitely meet again!
With the death of my “Bonus” Dad and the recent death of Dr. Maya Angelou, it really hit me, more than ever, that life isn’t promised. We won’t be here forever. God has blessed us with so many gifts and talents and has provided an abundance of wondrous things in this world for us to view and explore. Don’t be afraid to share what God has deposited in you because you’re afraid of people taking advantage of or belittling what you have to offer! Get used up!! When your time has come, you shouldn’t want there to be anything left to give! Live life in a way so that everything that God has deposited in you will be planted as a seed which will grow and bless many generations after you!! Be USED, Be BLESSED, and Be a BLESSING!
I’m the person people call when they need encouragement. Whether they are upset, need advice, have relationship issues, career issues, or overall life issues. This is the main reason why I started this blog. I believe that I have a God-given gift of being uplifting, positive, and encouraging and I wanted to embrace that fully. If I can uplift or inspire one person, that is a reward in itself.
Even though I try to maintain a positive attitude, I’m human. I go through life issues too! And I must admit, I’m a little tired ya’ll!! I’m a single woman, and trying to navigate this single life, while keeping your mind and heart in check can be draining! On top of that, my Stepdad has been battling cancer for about 2 years now. It’s not only extremely tough on him, but the family as well. An 8-5 job, working on new business ventures, exercising 3 to 4 times a week, participating in community programs, Sorority commitments, family commitments, etc can just become a lot to manage at times.
I’ve just been feeling spiritually drained lately. Have you ever felt tired even though you’ve gotten physical rest? To me that’s a sign that you are spiritually tired…an inward type of tiredness. I know I’m not the only one going through life issues, as a matter of fact, I know people are going through much worse. So all I’m saying is that there are days when I’m not OK, but it’s OK. We all go through valleys in our lives, we just need to not be consumed by them. Here are a few steps to help you with “not being OK”…
- Admit that you are feeling some type of way. You don’t even need to know what that “way” is. But by acknowledging it, you give yourself an opening to explore and understand your feelings freely without any additional feelings of failure, guilt, or shame.
- Say a “May I”. This is something new that I came across while watching a YouTube video of Tracee Ellis Ross. A “May I” acknowledges where you are at, yet invites you in a gentle way to where you want to go. A “May I” can be anything you want it to be. One of Tracee’s most popular “May I” is: “May the space between where I am and where I want to be inspire me.” Tracee’s You Tube channel has really been giving me life! Subscribe to her channel if you want to get great little nuggets of knowledge in a quirky way!
- Last but not least, keep God FIRST. Every time I get out of sorts, it is a direct sign that I’ve taken my eyes off the prize. Mathew 6:33 says, ” But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” When God is first, he will put all your broken pieces back together in a way that makes an even better picture! I actually just signed up to do the 3030 Challenge with Joyce Meyer. It’s time for me to get my focus back in order… God first, and then everything else. If you would like to take the challenge with me, feel free to sign up here! Life can be draining at times, and the Word is the only thing that can truly refresh your soul.
Hopefully, after following these steps, you will become much better than OK! Don’t get consumed in the valley…the mountain top is just ahead!!
Yesterday morning on the way to work, I almost caused a major accident! I decided to take a different route to work since the interstate traffic was backed up into the main highway. It was the second time this week that it rained during the morning hours, and this was the second time that there had been a backup. Due to this, and the fact that I was already pressed for time, I went another way. While sitting at the light of a major intersection, I accidently start to drive forward thinking that the light had turned green…but to my surprise it had not! Have you ever been at a light and automatically assumed that the light had turned green because the traffic opposite of you had started moving?? Well…that was me. The light had turned green, but only for the turning lane! So there I was, maybe a couple of feet away from a line of turning cars in the middle of the road!! After a moment of shock, I reversed my car and waited for the light to turn green before moving again. But before this happened, while sitting at the light, I had decided to check my phone. I always thought that it was safer to use your phone at a stop light than while driving, but obviously, I proved myself wrong. Even though you’re physically stopped, a cell phone can still divert your attention. If I hadn’t checked my phone, I would’ve been more aware of the stop light before moving. With that being said, I would like to share with you my 3 takeaways from the morning’s event:
- INVEST in a hands free cell phone device or DO NOT engage in any cell phone activities while on the road, regardless of if you’re driving or physically stopped. Here are a couple of hands free devices you can try.
- PRAY! Every morning I pray for my family, friends, myself, and the world in general. I always pray for traveling mercies, and He came through for me big time! They say that God watches over babies and fools, and I was definitely the fool!
- Our lives have PURPOSE! The fact that I am able to write this post is a miracle in itself; I and others could have died yesterday. God saw fit to spare our lives, which is proof that we are all put here for a purpose. He will not be satisfied until our purpose is fulfilled; therefore, it is our duty to continually push toward finding and living out our gift…our purpose!
Be Safe and Be Blessed
I’ve never been to fond of forced ideas or ways of doing things. So instead of writing a New Year’s Resolution post on January 1st, I’m deciding to do a post near the end of the 1st month of the year! LOL! Just to give a little background, I’ve always been a bookworm, always made good grades in school, etc. But despite my studious ways, in college, I never liked to study at the library! I would only go to the library when absolutely necessary. This was not because anything was wrong with studying at the library, but because the library put too much pressure on me to focus and I was already stressed enough from either preparing for a test or completing a paper/assignment! I say all that to say this… I feel that the hype behind creating a New Year’s Resolution puts too much pressure on people to create this worthy, impressive, life-altering resolution that most of us, by the time you’ve read this, have already broken! The definition of resolution is a firm decision to do or not to do something. But how are you going about doing something or not doing something?? The word “resolution” tends to make us focus heavily on the destination, but not on the “how”…the journey to get there. The journey includes steps, leaps, twists and turns, setbacks, smooth places, rough patches, and the list goes on and on. When those 20 lbs. are lost, that money is saved, new house or car is bought, new business is off the ground, etc. we relish in our achievements…or do we?? I believe that we are not relishing in the actual achievement, but the act of achieving. Achieving is the doing part, the part where we sacrificed, committed, put in the hard work to get to the point of achievement. It’s the joy in saying that “I came, I saw, I conquered!” I realized what I wanted, saw/recognized what it took to get there, and got there! We’re proud and satisfied within our being because we stuck it out and maneuvered through the terrains of our journey to reach our “resolution”. This year don’t get overly consumed with the “resolution” but with the “journey.” It is the mapping out of the journey and sticking to it that really matters and deserves our full attention. This year I’m heading out on a journey to expand, explore, and experience. I am on a journey to find my passions, my purpose, and my unadulterated love for myself. Unadulterated love- Love that pays no mind to flaws, but finds beauty and purpose in “imperfections.” How are you going to reach your resolution…What is your New Year’s Journey??